“As C.S. Lewis put it, “Experience: that most brutal of teachers. But you learn, my God, do you learn.” I would not like to go through all that again, but I would not want to trade the lessons I’ve learned along the way either.”

Ray Connolly - Former Member

Do you struggle with questions or feelings like…

What should I tell people about my past?

Do you wonder if people will accept you if they know your past?

How comfortable are you in revealing your spiritual abuse experience to others?

When you are all alone, do you punish yourself for getting caught up in a spiritually abusive group,

or that you were raised in one? 

         Recovery Principle Nine focuses on survivors' ability to share their past appropriately when necessary.  Most spiritual abuse survivors struggle with fear and shame when asked to answer questions like:  “Why did you join the group?  Didn’t you see… experience… or behave in ways you knew to be wrong?  Why did you stay so long?”  Being able to answer questions like these is critical to the survivor’s ability to recover and have meaningful relationships.